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When my husband I decided to start a business, we didn't think about the legal aspects of doing so. We didn't realize that purchasing business insurance, getting building permits and making investments all required some type of legal advice. But after speaking to a close friend, who also happens to own a small business, we contacted a business attorney. Now, we have the legal smarts to make the best decisions for our business, as well as the legal representation in case something happens to our company. I hope that you find my blog helpful and informative for your own business. It's a great resource for finding the legal advice, resources and guidance you need to get your company up and running.

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Getting Through A Stress Free Vacation With Your Child After Divorce

Ronnie Mills

Every divorce decree and custody arrangement is slightly different. In some the courts dictate all time-sharing arrangements, whereas in others it is left to the parties to decide. No matter which type of arrangement you have in place, if you are a non-custodial parent who has visitation rights, part of your summer visitation should include a vacation for you and your child. This will help the bond between you and your child, as well as build memories which will last a lifetime. It will be even better if you are able to vacation stress free.

The Importance Of Taking A Vacation

Did you know that your physical, as well as your mental health is often improved simply by taking a vacation. Vacations are designed to reduce the amount of chronic stress that you often live under daily. This does not just apply to adults. Although adults are under more stress than children, children experience can stress too. This is especially true if your divorce is recent, and they are still having to deal with all of the changes. 

When stress is not relieved, it can become distress. This is usually the step that you arrive at prior to experiencing physical reactions, which include:

  • Headaches
  • Chest pain
  • Insomnia
  • Depression
  • Anxiety
  • Elevated blood pressure, and more

Failure to reduce the amount of stress you are under can even lead to you having a higher rate of other types of serious diseases. The last thing that you want your vacation to add is additional stress to your life, or the life of your child, or children.

Keys To A Stress Free Vacation

Good communication between you and your ex pertaining to the vacation.  Although, you may feel that what you do, and where you go when you have the children, is none of your ex's business, nothing is further from the truth. Having an open dialogue with your ex about the plans you have made for you and the children, will hopefully help to alleviate anxiety on their part, which will often transfer over to your children.

Be prepared to give your ex the following:

  • Your itinerary
  • Contact information while you are away
  • Proposed activities
  • Information pertaining to others who may be participating in the trip

Your divorce decree may also require that you give your ex reasonable notice of any trips you plan. This notice can vary on a case-by-case basis, and is often dependent on the nature, location, and duration of your trip. Check with your lawyer or someone at a site like for more information about possible restrictions.

Plan your trip based around your child. Remember the vacation suppose to be something you and your child will enjoy together. While it may be tempting to include your child on a business trip that you have to go on and call it a vacation. That is not the same as planning a vacation for you and your child.

Plan a vacation to do something that your child will enjoy, and will be able to handle. Planning something for everyone can be hard if there are multiple children, or a large age difference between your children.

In these cases consider planning a day for each individual child at the location that you choose. Do activities that will appeal to your youngest on one day, and activities that will appeal to your older child on another. This will keep all of the children engaged in the vacation, and will make each of them feel special that they have their own day.

Plan downtime during your vacation. While a week at Disney World may be an exciting time for everyone, it can quickly lead to you and them being overly tired and a little bit cranky. Choose a day or two in the middle of your vacation to simply spend some downtime. This may be time spent around the pool, maybe playing miniature golf, or riding out for some local sightseeing.

While you may be tempted not to enforce bedtimes during vacation, allowing your child to stay up all night, will often make for a stressful situation the following day. Consider extending bedtimes, or allowing your child to sleep in a little the following morning. When both of you are well rested, there will be far less stress.